According to our teachers’ observations, many of our students are afraid of failure. If you set a goal, there’s a chance you might fail, so it’s easier (and less scary!) to never set a goal in the first place. As we develop our new Base Camp curriculum, our teachers are working with each student and coaching them on goal setting and project management.
In the meantime, how can you help your student? For now, the best thing you can do is point out their successes.
Teens are very self-conscious. They see their failures, and they ignore their successes. And as both parents and teachers, I know we adults are often in the position of “nag” because there’s so much that needs to get done, and so many skills that our kids still have to learn. But when we talk to kids about what they CAN do and what they DID do, they start to see themselves as a person who can be successful.
As parents, let’s pause to point out times when our kid accomplished something useful, or learned something new. We can point out times when they were kind, or helpful. We can remind them, “Hey, remember when you were younger and you had a hard time with ____? Now you’re really good at it! You’ve grown up a lot recently, and I want you to know that I see it and I appreciate it.”
—Summary from LEADPrep Weekly Parent Info Sessions
with Kester Limner, LEADPrep Parent,
and Jacob Janin, Seattle Campus Director